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What to Do When You Lose Someone You Love (Tasliyat Ahl al-Masa’ib) summary

Al-Manbiji

Based on Tasliyat Ahl al-Masa’ib

  • 16 chapters
  • 58 min audio
  • Audio & text

A gentle guide for the bereaved by the Damascene scholar al-Manbiji, offering Qur’anic remedies, Prophetic teachings and stories of the righteous to help the grieving heart find patience and hope.

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Key ideas in What to Do When You Lose Someone You Love

1. No House Without a Wound

Loss touches every home, and the greatest loss of all was the death of the Prophet; remembering this softens every grief.

2. Tears Are a Mercy

Weeping is a mercy Allah places in the heart, but wailing and complaint cross the line.

3. Gifts That Still Reach Them

Charity, prayer and good deeds still reach the dead, and Allah’s mercy is wider than everything.

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Mercy Wider Than Everything

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al-Manbiji ends where every grieving heart needs to end. With the mercy of Allah. He says, My mercy encompasses all things.

He reminds the reader who has lost someone who was not perfect, who had sins, and died without the family knowing if they had repented. Whoever dies upon tawhid, upon the oneness of Allah, will not be in the Fire forever, no matter what they did.

Abu Dharr came to the Prophet, who said, no servant says there is no god but Allah and dies upon that, except that he enters Paradise. Abu Dharr asked, even if he committed grave sins? He said, even then. He asked again, and again, and the answer did not change.

Then the last chapter. Letting go of this world. Allah says, the enjoyment of this world is little, and the next is better for one who is mindful. Ibn Umar said, the Prophet took me by the shoulder and said, be in this world as if you were a stranger, or a traveller passing through.

A stranger does not make a foreign land his home. He does not get too attached. He knows he is going home.

Once the Prophet walked through the market and picked up a small dead goat with tiny ears. He asked, who would like to buy this for a dirham? They said, we would not take it for nothing. Even alive it was flawed. He said, by Allah, this world is less in the sight of Allah than this is to you.

So do not grieve beyond measure for what this world took from you. And do not forget what the next world is keeping for you. Those you lost went home before you. And the door is still open. To Allah we belong, and to Him, all of us, are returning.

What is What to Do When You Lose Someone You Love about?

A gentle guide for the bereaved by the Damascene scholar al-Manbiji, offering Qur’anic remedies, Prophetic teachings and stories of the righteous to help the grieving heart find patience and hope. This summary draws on Tasliyat Ahl al-Masa’ib by Al-Manbiji.

Who should read What to Do When You Lose Someone You Love?

About the author: Al-Manbiji

Muhammad al-Manbiji (d. 1383 CE) was a Hanbali scholar of Damascus. He wrote ‘Tasliyat Ahl al-Masa’ib’, a consolation for the afflicted, after plague swept through his city, drawing on Qur’an, hadith and the sayings of the early Muslims.

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What are the main ideas of What to Do When You Lose Someone You Love?

The key ideas are: No House Without a Wound; Tears Are a Mercy; Gifts That Still Reach Them. Loss touches every home, and the greatest loss of all was the death of the Prophet; remembering this softens every grief.

Who wrote What to Do When You Lose Someone You Love?

The summary is based on Tasliyat Ahl al-Masa’ib, by Al-Manbiji.

How long is the What to Do When You Lose Someone You Love summary?

The Islam Central summary has 16 chapters and about 58 min of audio, with the full text to read along in the app.

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Is this the original book?

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